I had been in a long distance relationship with a former boyfriend from college for over a year when reality hit: This guy is a total douchebag. He had contacted me 20 years after college – just shortly after my divorce – so it seemed like perfect timing. Ha! He told me how he still had feelings for me after all these years. He explained that he had married, had two children (now teens), and that he and his wife had been separated for several years now, and that their divorce was taking longer due to financial issues needing to be sorted out. I know what you are thinking: I was a fool to believe him. Over the time we were together, I was never allowed to visit him or meet his daughters. I was not allowed to be his friend on Facebook, and pretty much everything was a secret. Things came to a crashing halt on New Year’s Eve. He canceled his plans to come visit and spend it with me, and told me he would be taking his two daughters out to dinner.   I did not hear from him that evening or for a few days, and after not getting a call back from my messages I left (yes, I know, what a pathetic move on my part), in a desperate move, I decided to look on his daughter’s Facebook page. And there it was: Photos of him with his wife and two daughters ringing in the new year at a neighbor’s house.